You’ve got a big dream, a big scheme.
You can picture it and feel exhilarated. You yearn for visibility — you long to express it and share it with the world. You want to grow out your business; you want your ideal clients to find you; you want to be featured in the media; and you want to be seen as an authority to make your mark on the world.
Then you hesitate, procrastinate.
You don’t feel camera-ready; there is a part of you that doesn’t want to be seen.
I know what that’s like. I came into the online space a few years ago as a total rookie. I didn’t know how to make a comment on Facebook, let alone build an entire brand and website. In fact, I didn’t even know what I wanted to do!
What I did know, however, was that I wanted to have a bigger stage and audience.
Discovering my message and how I wanted to serve was the first long process. Finding the courage to share it fully, was the next.
Now, I empower women to stand in their own authority — to claim their space and live their purpose with intention and impact.
Because I see the empowerment of women and the feminine perspective as the force we need to change the world for the better.
You know there is so much more you could be doing – that you are meant to help thousands or even more!
10 Fun Facts about Me
1. I speak conversational Hungarian.
2. I ran an organic farm that supplied local restaurants with specialty greens and edible flowers.
3. In my 20’s, I spent a year traveling on my own around the world, and visited 13 different countries, including Nepal, Burma, and Norway.
4. I used to be totally self conscious being on camera—but now I LOVE it!
5. I’ve raised chickens at home, and have made my own homemade cheese.
6. And did I mention that I keep bees?
7. I studied fashion design and sold a line of hand painted clothing across from Harvard Yard, Cambridge
8. In 1982 I had my own dance company. We were only around for a season, but we had a BLAST.
9. I spent 10 enchanted years unschooling my daughter.
10. I’m the principal dancer and choreographer with the world music ensemble, Libana, and have been with them for over 3 decades, performing in Morocco, India, Bulgaria, and countless cities across the US.
The challenge that women face is that we’re not encouraged to be ambitious: We’re taught to seek approval and please. We are praised for being “good,” — for being supporters, not leaders.
As Nigerian novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie writes,
“We teach girls to shrink themselves . . .
We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much.
You should aim to be successful, but not too successful.”
This is a lesson that I learned early on. I grew up witnessing my two sisters getting yelled at or even having their mouths washed out with soap as punishment for being “fresh” with my parents.
Terrified by the threat of these punishments, I vowed to myself that I would never do anything that would make somebody punish me this way. Thus began my entry into goody-goodness, ensuring that — regardless of how I actually felt — my actions would bring nothing but approval from my parents, sisters, and teachers.
It didn’t even occur to me that my own opinions matter until a college professor handed me my first C grade for a paper (as you could imagine, I was a great student — at least when it came to following directions).
He said, “I don’t want you to write how you think I want it. I want you to tell me your own ideas.”
My own ideas? I thought. Do I even have my own ideas?
Truthfully, I was stumped.
But in hindsight, that was the best grade I’d ever gotten. Because it set me on a quest to know myself and my opinions, to acknowledge that what I stand for and believe in is valuable — even if it’s contrary to what I’d been taught; even if it’s a challenging landscape to navigate.
After college, I took a long and winding path to helping purpose-driven female entrepreneurs get comfortable in being visible. It all started with my love for dancing (including a Master’s in Expressive Therapy), but when having a full-time career in dance seemed impossible, I decided to look at what else might turn me on — from gardening to self-help to parenting.
But one day, after listening to a module of Marie Forleo’s B-School, I stood up from weeding onions and thought, “Growing vegetables is cool and important, but I don’t think this is what I’m meant to do for the rest of my life.”
At that moment, I realized I wanted to help women — women like you — unleash your full potential as a messenger of your business. To recognize that your opinions matter. To own your inner authority without being caught up in what others might think. To feel unimpeded, charged up, fearless, empowered.